Ask Code Switch: Is it a preference or fetish?

This week on
, we’re talking about
race with your significant other. Dating a white person obviously isn’t racist – just like dating a person of color isn’t inherently anti-racist. But what if you notice a pattern in your partner’s dating history that consistently favors a very specific type?
What if, for example, all of his most recent partners have been white women with features that resemble yours? Should you ask your partner if they only date a certain race? Is there a wrong answer?
Our listener, Nicole G., wants to know: is there a correct way to confront the dating patterns of your partner’s past?
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What does the race and background of our romantic partners say about
?
Nicole says she wants to live her values and challenge her whiteness. So where should she start?
I called
– a queer, sex-positive therapist who spends a lot of time helping clients navigate multicultural, non-monogamous, interracial relationship dynamics. Veronica tells people to start with therapy when looking for additional support as they start to navigate race conversations in their own interracial relationships.
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